An easy way to up your mental game a notch
When I was handed a pink slip in my previous job, I hated the feeling of being ‘let go’.
I have a family to feed and a toddler in tow. In the first few weeks, I scrambled to look for jobs. I got a Ph.D. but it wasn’t easy. So I took a job as an adjunct professor at a nearby community college.
But the wages of an adjunct professor in a community college is not enough to pay for my toddler’s toys, even if I disconnected Netflix, Amazon prime and other magazine subscription. It was a simple math. I can’t cut my gas consumption or my utilities to save more money. I needed to produce money.
By the way, I cut all my Netflix and Amazon Prime and Magazine subscriptions at that time, cut all my credit cards with a scissor and re-started my life.
One day though, I was wandering around on Facebook and then YouTube when I suddenly clicked an ad on YouTube, asking me if I wanted to be an Amazon seller as a side hustle.
The business model is called Amazon Private Label.
In this model, you outsource a product to China and then sell it on Amazon.
After 2 years, I quit the business losing around $2–3k. But that didn’t stop me to look for new hustles. And that’s how I discovered Affiliate Marketing. The idea was to sell a product that’s not mine, but I get a commission for selling it successfully.
I learned Facebook Ads to sell other people’s product. And I got better on it. But the problem is that deep inside me is my fear of losing money, again.
Although I received a commission of around $2,000 last year, during the pandemic, and knows that the business model has proven to be profitable, I WAS SCARED and STILL IS.
Researching to up my mental game and fight being scared, I came to realize that our mind is always negative, and the reason why we are scared because that’s our default setting.
I learned to say mantra to myself, because that was the advice of the book I was reading. I didn’t understand at first but soon realize that when we say mantra to one self, we slowly change our believes, our thoughts and words.
Believe me, it was not easy.
I’m a scientist, my training is to be skeptical and analytical, but I say mantra anyway.
I then learned that saying mantra is best if we say it early in the morning, when you are still within the border of dreaming and waking.
I would say to myself, “money flows to me easily and copiously. I am a lifestyle millionaire.”
I say it early morning right before I get out to bed and say my prayers. Then during the day, I repeat that again and again. To be honest, I only do it when I remember it, but slowly I developed a routine.
When I say the mantra, even though sometimes I don’t believe it, my Ph.D. and analytical mind would look for ways not to stop and research the benefits of mantra.
I soon learn that the human subconscious wants to win on something whatever game we play. The game we play is to believe that “money comes to me…”
When we say the Mantra, it also changes your frequency, our emotion and energy. I recite the mantra so I am emotionally charged and then I work on my goals. We are creatures motivated by emotion (logical brain is great but we move with emotions).
In the end, these emotions can push us, you or me to all the terror barrier.
What I mean by that is this: for example, I am scared to put more money down on my business, like putting more money on Facebook ads.
Mantra pushes me to that scary barrier and push me to put money on Facebook ads anyway.
Does it stick? I mean is my energy always high?
Nope.
But I push myself off that terror zones. If you are comfortable, you are in your comfort zone.
And pushing yourself to those terror zones are like muscles — it gets stronger every time you use it.
So that’s what I do, spend that money for advertising, hire another person from Fiverr, write the Facebook ad that I needed to write, write the landing page article, ask for help.
I’m scared to do all these, but I say my mantra to help me past my fears. Because making my business is basically fear of the unknown. Succeeding in business is an unknown.
You know why people stay in an abusive relationship?
Because they are scared of left alone. For them, left alone is the unfamiliar.
For me, the scared entrepreneur, losing money one of my greatest fear, fearing that the business will not work, these are the unfamiliar.
So here’s what I do to up my mental game.
I go to the spiritual gym (prayers).
Affirmations and Mantra.
Reading self-help books and biography of people succeeding despite of.
Hiking and walking
Listening to music.
Later, I’ll discuss more in depth how I do this.
