CONFIDENCE IS NOT JUST FOR 8-YEAR OLDS
If you don’t have this, you’re likely to fail….
Confidence is not something you have. It’s something you create and you can create it any moment in time.
A sense of confidence is nothing but a sense of power than yourself. A sense of certainty that you can pull something off. And you can create that feeling literally in a moment. It’s not something that you live with.
There is no one that I’ve ever met that no matter what the situation they’re in, is always confident. Everybody gets knocked off their feet at times. The key is can you turn the confidence on when you need it so you can get the most out of yourself.
You’ve got to remember that feeling confident is nothing but a state of mind and you can change any state you want at any moment in time, no matter what’s going on around you.
You’ve got to remember that any feeling you’ve ever had in your body, whether it be fear, anxiety, concern, depression, frustration or ecstasy, power, unstoppable, confidence, success, those emotions, any emotion you feel comes from the way you use your physical body.
The only way you can feel anything is by the way you move, the way you breathe, and your facial expressions. So if you’re not feeling confident, you don’t have to intellectually try and pump yourself up because it doesn’t always work.
For sure you’ve tried at times to tell yourself, I need to be confident. I know I should be confident, but you’re still not there.
Let me tell you, the quickest way to get confidence is to change your physiology, radically.
Emotion is created by motion.
The way you move your body physically, the way you breathe, your facial expressions instantly affects your emotional state, the way you feel and the way you think.
So if you need confidence, you must move in a confident way. You must literally put yourself at level 10 or above. If you’re confident enough, you can develop the competence. But if you’re competent and you don’t have confidence, you’ll never succeed.
There are many competent people who can accomplish incredible results, but they’re missing the confidence.
What I’m suggesting to you is to learn how to turn on confidence rapidly. Use enough of it to learn what you need to know to be competent and effective and produce the results.
But you’d be surprised how much more you know. Then you realize if you really get yourself in the right state of mind, you will be confident.
Try it.
Try moving your body in a confident way. Stand the way you’d be standing if you felt unstoppably confident.
If you felt unstoppably confident, really go for it. Put The gun of expression on your face that you have. If you have unstoppably confidence, make some gestures. Actually move your hands out with some power.
If you’re trying to make a point with real power and when you know that what you’re going to say is going to be effective, think of it that IT WILL!! (and just notice how that feels).
Say something.
Say yes and the tone of voice as somebody who was totally confident. Say ‘yes’ with some power and just feel it in your body.
Get a sense of it. Turn on more intensity than you would normally use with another person. Just feel it in your body so you feel what it’s like. You want to be able to turn it on just by turning your body on.
This is critical with this as a power.
You can go from being afraid to strong, in a matter of moments.
Using your physical body effectively can put you in a state of confidence no matter what was happening around you doing even how intense the situation is.
No matter how scary, no matter how difficult, you always have that resource. If you don’t feel like you have confidence, create it right now.
It’s not a thing that somebody gave you years ago. It’s not something you missed out on. It’s something you create by the way you speak. By the way you move. By the way you gesture, control your mental focus.
Remember,what you focus on, is going to turn how you feel. So if you focus constantly on how things might not work out and you look at in your brain all the possibilities of, it will not work
Or what if that doesn’t happen at that’s your mental focus? Of course you’re going to lack confidence.
Remember, we experience whatever we focus on. So if you’re focusing on how things won’t work, you’re gonna feel the pain that you associate to that. You’re going to create a tremendous amount of doubt. And then it usually becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
You don’t get what you want, but when you expect and focus on one result and you say, this is what it is, I’m going to accomplish this, I expect it immediately, your level of self confidence goes up and you feel active immediately because your brain says, hey, if I do this, I can get some pleasure in my life.
Does that make sense?
That’s the process we’re talking about. We must control our focus and one way to do it, of course, is to control our focus by controlling the questions we ask ourselves.
Questions invite revelations, so ask the right questions….
And variably, people who have a lot of doubt ask questions that create doubt. If you walk around in life believing that the only way you can feel confident is if you’ve already accomplished something, you’ve got a problem.
You’re limiting yourself to the number of things you can ever feel confident about and succeed. In other words, some people say, well, how can I be confident when I’ve never done it before.
Listen, I feel confident. It’s because I come from a belief system that says this,
that if I can imagine it, I can achieve.
So if I can even imagine it, I know I can achieve it. And that allows me to be confident. Plus I have a belief system that says if I’m committed, there’s always a way to make it work.
And no matter how tough the situation is, if I don’t know how to make it work, somebody else does and I can get their help. So I come from that place and that allows me to be confident.
I know I can get help. I know if I’m committed, there’s a way to do it and I know that anything can be accomplished by finding a role model.
Everything you do now, you once weren’t good at everything you do now. There was a time when you had not done it. Why wait to get confident. Besides that, I know I can be confident about what I’m about to begin because I know, if it doesn’t work out, I’ll learn something and that makes me feel confident because what I learn will allow me to be better in the future.
In other words, set yourself up to be able to be confident. I’m just telling you how to turn confidence on when you need it and most of the time you do need it.
The potential of any human being, I personally believe, is absolutely unlimited. None of us even come close to scratching our real potential. There are a lot of people who go out there and take a lot of action and still get lousy results. Why action by itself is great, but it is not enough.
Success starts with our beliefs.
That is the core of your performance. Think about it. See that the potential is there, but if for some reason you start out with some learning beliefs like, well, I don’t have that much self confidence anyway, or I don’t have the background or I’ve never done this before, so I probably won’t succeed anyway, then you are toast.
If you have that belief, are you likely to tap a lot of your potential?
Highly unlikely.
Now, if you don’t think you’re going to succeed and you’re not using much potential, are you likely to take massive action?
Hardly.
Now, when you tap a little bit of potential and you only take a little bit of action, what kind of results do you get?
A little bit of results, if any.
Now, what does that do to your brain and your beliefs?
Your brain goes, see, I told you so.
Now, you have this reinforcing belief pattern because it points back to that experience. So what happens?
You have even less belief. You tap even less potential. You take even less action if that’s possible. You get even worse results and now you’re truly locked into the downward spiral to the point where now you start looking at how can you do the very least to get by.
The opposite is also true too.
Sometimes, people haven’t experienced in life, where for some reason they get a result or something happens and they began to absolutely believe, not just hope, but know that they can accomplish something.
When that happens, whether it because you changed your body, who you had a new experience, you’re going to tap a lot more potential.
When you know you’re going to succeed, aren’t you, going to probably take a lot more action knowing you’re going to succeed?
If you’re inspired, you’re going to go for it.
When you take a lot of action and use a lot of your potential, what kind of results would you get?
Usually great results.
When you get great results, what does that do to your belief?
Your brain goes, see, I told you you would succeed and sure enough now your beliefs serve in stronger, so what do you do?
You tap even more potential.
You take massive action and you get even greater results. What happens?
Your beliefs grew stronger and now you’re in that success cycle.
You’re in that place where you literally have momentum that drives you to a whole new level. That’s how beliefs are formed.
You might say, well, how can I get results though? What do I do if I’m on the downward spiral?
Remember, we didn’t change your potential. That was always there.
You don’t just take action, although that’s a great first step.
The first thing you have to do is you need to change your beliefs…
And one of the easiest ways to do that is change your results in advance.
If you want to succeed, you need to rehearse over and over succeeding until it’s so real for you. Your brain begins to believe it. Now you’ll tap more potential. You’ll take better action in real life. You’ll get better results.
Then it’ll reinforce your belief and now you’re off and running. Does this make sense?
This is the way to create lifelong, unstoppable self confidence. If you really want to be confident, know what causes people to lack confidence.
Focusing too much on yourself and not enough on other people will guarantee that you’ll lack confidence.
What do I mean?
I mean some people are incompetent because they pick themselves apart. They spend all day, every day analyzing themselves.
Why did I do this? Why don’t I do that? How come I never accomplish these things?
They ask lousy questions. They get lousy answers and they create a tremendous amount of self doubt.
You want to have more confidence?
Stop analyzing yourself so much and focus on other people and how you can contribute to them and as you start giving other people, you’ll feel more confident about what you can do for yourself.
Does that make sense?
And finally this, you can feel confident if all you do is remember some of the things you’ve accomplished in your life.
You are a successful, competent person.
You’ve done a lot of things in your life extremely well. No matter who you are, what your background is. There are things in this world that you are really good at, things you’ve really accomplished in your life that you’ve got to be proud of.
Every human being I meet, I know is my superior, because I know all of us in life have focused our attention on various things and whatever you focused on a lot, you’re good at.
And every human being I meet in my life, I know that I’m superior to in some way as well, and that makes me feel confident as well, knowing I could learn from other people and that I can give too.
So in order to help yourself, really have reasons to feel confident, not just put yourself in state, but to feel like you’ve got reasons.
All you’ve got to do is manage your memories better.
Pull out some of your memories of tough situations in your life. Situation you didn’t think you could pull it off, but you turned it around.
You have some of those situations, right?
Those were the times where you can never figure a way to pull this off. And yet you did. You need to remember more of those and less than the times when you felt overwhelmed.
Pull out of your memory files some of the references that can show you that you deserve to be confident, that you’re competent and confident that you can make things happen even in the toughest of times. And use those examples to remind yourself in the future that whatever’s going on, you can find a way.
